I have some sad news to share. Honestly, I've been avoiding it, but the time has come when not talking about it is creating more awkwardness than just coming out with it. On October 1st of this year, my wife and I would be celebrating our 4th year wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, it's not to be. After nearly four years of marriage and a couple more of dating, we are parting ways. It saddens me so deeply that things didn't work out. It's been a difficult process for both of us to come to this decision, one that I really don't wish upon anyone. Nothing is worse that seeing your best friend in pain.
I can't tell you enough that there is no good guy or bad guy here. No one did anything terrible to the other and in all of those years, we remained one hundred percent faithful to each other (which people doubted was possible since we both travel for a living). But we started out as best friends and through our relationship, neither of us lost sight of that. On the rare occasion when a woman prodded me to do something I shouldn't I would always reply with, 'my wife is my best friend in the whole world. Now, why would I want to do that to my best friend?' It helped to put things in perspective.
Unfortunately, we simply came to a place in our relationship where we wanted different things. I can't say enough that she was the perfect wife. I could not have hoped for more, I lacked nothing anyone would wish from a relationship. She is beautiful, funny, loving, caring and far more patient than I could ever imagine a person being.
This is a very difficult time for both of us and I sincerely and humbly ask that you give us the two things we need most at this time. That is space and privacy. Also, unless you are a very close personal friend of hers (and I don't mean you met her at a show once or twice... I mean you have dinner with her regularly) I beg you not to contact her. She was never completely comfortable with the concept of my fans emailing her, adding her on Facebook, etc... She is a VERY private person and for the most part reserves her internet activities for people she knows really, really well in real life. I assure you that she has an amazingly supportive and wonderful family and a large circle of very dear friends by her side. So please, while I truly and greatly appreciate your desire to want to reach out and console the both of us, I ask you to PLEASE let her heal in her own way with her family and close friends.
It's going to be a rough time. I am not going to lie about that. But it's also a new beginning. It's a bit scary. To be honest, I have never felt comfortable alone. I enjoy my own company, I enjoy my own thoughts, I have no trouble traveling alone, going out to dinner by myself, spending hours or even days without speaking to a soul. I actually really, really enjoy solitude. But romantically, I've always felt I needed someone in my life to make me feel complete and now, it's finally the time for me to work on that and to try to be okay with being alone.